LET’S GET PERSONAL.
SO I RARELY SHARE ANYTHING PERSONAL ON SOCIAL MEDIA HOWEVER…
I get a lot of people that ask me about my dating situation, or asking if I’m married, or just generally “the sitch”…ya know. But I think sometimes its fun to share a little personal info, so here we go.
If you live in San Diego, you know the city is known to be either “Man Diego” or “Peter Pan Land”… aka lots of men, who never want to grow up.
I think almost everyone I’ve run into here I’ve seen online, and I always thought it was another way to meet more people in general as you move into your thirties it can be tougher to get out and meet friends, potential future ex husbands (haha!) and so I’ve done the online dating thing off and on over the past few years. Some have been good, some bad, and some where I’ve wanted to throat chop myself. Ya just never know what you’re gonna get, do ya?
Well, a month ago or so, I decided to pull the plug on the joy of online dating and heres why:
When do you EVER you go out with a friend or say you are getting to know a new friend that you met somewhere, or at an event etc… when do you ever have a conversation that goes like this:
“hey, so did you grow up here?”…
“When was your last relationship?” ….
“How many brothers and sisters do you have?”….
“How old are they?”…
“What are your favorite hobbies?”..
.”Where do you work at?”
… and the list goes on and on.
I mean, I know not ALL online dates are like this and its comes down to asking better questions on both ends and communication skills, however this girl has been one too many dates like this, that is a constant barrage of interview assassin like questions, shot one after another.
The last online date I had, that is what I would call “the nail in the coffin” was a month ago. We will call him “Jason” to protect the not so innocent. ; )
Well, Jason was a looker (online), had just moved here from Oklahoma (you gotta jump on that, ladies, before they move into “Peter Pan Land” and assimilate to the laid back California lifestyle …and seemed to have a great job, and be pretty well rounded. Perfect on Paper, and cuter in person.
Well, one hour in and five Maker on the rocks later… Jason had morphed into a well composed cutie, to literally asking me how I felt about kids and adopting (he has two pretty youngsters), to planning our wedding ( in Ireland specifically)… to texting other girls in front of me, literally while we were sitting having a conversation.
This is where I got up, polished off my Sauv Blanc, and announced it was nice meeting him, and wheeled it out of The Pony Room quicker than Charlie Sheen can say winnnnnnnning …after three lines of coke.
I mean, I guess the big takeaway from that one… errr “Jason”, is maybe…. slow your roll on the Makers.
The takeaway for me….
for now I’m going I’ll go back to meeting people in real life and on a friendship level, where things can unfold naturally, and we can both avoid talks of weddings in Ireland, child adoption, and small talk for the first 83 minutes of first glance.
Curious to hear your opinion of online dating and hear some good stories, below! ; )